Toxic people ‘defy logic’. Some of them are unaware
of their negative impact on others and others derive pleasure in causing chaos
and pushing others to the edge. Because toxic people are so difficult to
understand, it generally makes it difficult to effectively deal with them. Jumia
Travel, the leading online agency, helps by sharing 5 ways to push
through this difficulty and effectively deal with toxic people.
Know
Your Weakness
You need to recognize what makes you weak and
susceptible to the wiles of toxic people. The moment you understand what it is
about a toxic person that affects you so much, it will immediately be easier to
deal with the problem. It also gives you an opportunity to work on yourself so
no other can get to you through that ‘route’ again.
Set
Limits
Set limits with people you consider as toxic and
distance yourself from them when necessary. Think of it this way: someone is
smoking in front of you and you move away from the second-hand smoke. You move
away to save yourself from health problems related to something you didn’t even
initiate. Setting limits can involve communicating with the person to desist
from provocative and toxic behaviours etc.
Emotionally
Detach Yourself
Most times the behaviours of toxic people go against
reason. You should understand that you can’t beat a toxic person at their own
game, you’ll get sucked in. You have to rise above it all, emotionally distance
yourself from the situation and remove yourself from their traps. Approach
interactions with toxic people like a ‘science project’ – deal only with facts,
logic and reason, keep emotions out of it.
Be
Aware of Your Emotions
Emotionally detaching yourself from a situation
involves being aware of your current emotional state. It involves ignoring
whatever emotions you feel about the situation and remaining logical enough to
recognize the current situation for what it actually is. If you feel you are
losing control of your emotions, step back from it all and give yourself a
break to buy yourself time to get a grip and find the best way to move forward
with the situation and person. At this point, depending on its effect on you,
you might decide that distancing yourself from the person might be best.
Don’t
Fixate
Stop thinking of how troubling or difficult a person
is. Fixating on how crazy or toxic a person is can, in an interesting twist,
turn you into an equally toxic person. You should focus instead on how you are
going to effectively deal with and handle them. Focus on more on the actions
you are going to take to better yourself and circumstances. Focusing on the
solutions helps produce positive emotions that help to reduce your initial
stress.
By Damilola Ojo
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